Well…If you are the bio-dad the truth might put you on the hook.
You will be financially responsible that is and isn’t that okay? After all, you are the biological father!
As a paternity expert having tested well over 100,000 cases in the last 20 years I’ve heard all the games people try to play. Trying to lie to me, their family, friends. Sometimes the lies go on and on and on. Fortunately, a DNA paternity test has nothing to do with the lies that are told or the secrets that are trying to be kept. The paternity test only deals with fact. It cuts right through all the BS!
It is amazing to me how many stories I’ve heard where the secret of the paternity of a child has persisted for decades. Who got protected by keeping that secret? The child? The truth is the truth and most of all the child deserves to live with the truth about who his/her father is. Even if you never find the biological father or get a DNA test, doesn’t your child deserve the respect not to be lied to for a lifetime. They grow up and look in the mirror one day and say “I don’t look anything like my dad” and subconsciously they begin to doubt family relationships. Eventually, they come to the conclusion that they were lied to by the person who is supposed to protect them and love them unconditionally. They begin to wonder who else in the family helped to keep this dirty little secret called my life. I have literally had to advise a 70 year old “child” in a case on how to swab their 93 year old father just after he died because his mother took the secret to her grave. Thanks for caring! (sarcasm)
Anytime in a child’s life is the right time to tell them the truth about their family, or lack there of. Trust me, they can handle it. In fact, they will respect you more because you told them the truth and the truth might be that you just don’t know who the father is.
Luckily, we live in a time where a paternity test is possible and affordable.